Hung Up – On Feeling Good ;)

Life is actually quite great right now. So I find it interesting that I am currently letting myself get hung up on one thing that isn’t so great. It’s funny to me how we (me, in this case) allow our perception of someone else’s perception of us affect us so much. Like I am somehow less worthy as a human being because so-and-so doesn’t see me or treat me as I feel they should. So in essence, if this person doesn’t change, that means I will feel bad?? No way! I have already realized that trying to get people to change is not a job I am willing to take on…simply because it doesn’t work. And the more I try, the more likely the person would resist anyway. So because that is a ridiculous and futile concept, the other option is to make a decision to be happy anyway. It does take some conscious thinking, because it is so easy to just react. Someone curses at you, and you want to curse back.

Right now, the most important thing for me is joy. It may sound selfish on the surface – like Sheena there are homeless people and people being killed and all you can think about is your own joy??? Well yes. What do I really have to offer to anyone else if I am coming from a negative state of mind? Do joyful, happy people really go on killing sprees? I think not. If we had more joyful people, we would have less negativity in the world.

Plus, I have examined myself enough to know that I feel my very best when I am coming from a loving, joyful place. And not only do I feel good, but I interact with others more lovingly and attract into my life the things I want. I am always refreshed and uplifted around someone joyful. And it’s silly because if you think about it, it’s like we forget that we are actually here to enjoy life. We all have goals and aspirations, which is great, but how many of us forget to actually enjoy it??

Joy is a choice. And just like any skill, with practice we can get better at being joyful. In every moment, we can choose to be joyful or to be something else. And when I say joyful, it doesn’t necessarily mean happy, smiley, laughy. It could be just as simple as feeling good. We can choose to feel good, no matter what. We have so much freedom that we can even choose our own bondage, which sadly, many of us do. Anyway, I am here to live a joyful life, and writing this post has helped me to remember that. See, I am practicing.

What the hell?

Alright, I don’t mean to generalize, but I am going to succumb to my temptation to do so anyway…so what the hell?? Are there any normal, honest men in NYC?? Ok, of course I know there are…but what’s up when you finally find one that you are interested in, enjoy spending time with, makes you laugh, is respectful, generous… and it turns out they lie about their age…not by a little, but A LOT. And when you ask them about it they don’t even have the common decency to come clean. In my opinion, very bad way to start any kind of anything.

Definitely a let down. On the more positive side of things, I can either let this experience harden and taint my feelings toward men or I can come from a higher place, step outside of myself and my own feelings and see the situation from a different vantage point and learn from it. As Abe says, “in each situation I encounter, I will find a way to set my tone within it for the changing, uplifting and adding to this physical experience.”

What I am realizing more so than ever before, is that although attraction is still important, I am really wanting a more spiritual connection with someone. Someone who is growing and expanding in his own life in more areas than just his business or job. Someone who gets this world at more than just the superficial level and doesn’t think law of attraction, allowing and creation are weird psychobabble topics. Hahaha, this is starting to sound like an online ad for dating so I think I will end here. Lol.

Lucky Me!

I feel blessed that the universe has lined up a wonderful location for us to do our next Latin Social Dance event. It is a beautiful venue called The Veranda. I just have to say that I appreciate the owner of the club and also just people in general who help others and want to see them succeed. I definitely recommend for everyone to swing by and check it out. Come dance and mingle with us on Thursday, April 1st. Purchase discounted tickets online.

Practice…

I have come to view this life as practice…practice for what you may ask…

Practice in coming from that pure, positive state of energy (aka. source energy, love, appreciation) that we are all born with, but many of us have deviated from over years of social conditioning and learning from others who are not in that place of alignment themselves. Practice in being able to hold myself in that place of love and appreciation for longer and longer spurts. Practice in replacing my fearful and limited thinking, with loving and appreciative thoughts. Practice in focusing my thoughts, words and actions on the things in life that I do want, instead of the current reality of “what is”.

For instance, my current reality tells me that I don’t have as much money as I would like. So I can focus on the “fact” that I don’t have enough money and continue to tell the story of not having enough money, which in turn will keep me in the exact place that I already am OR I can tell a different story. Not face my current reality and instead focus on the excitement and hopeful anticipation of making money and the expansion and growth process of the person that I will become on that journey. A great first step in getting to that feeling place of excitement and hopeful anticipation, is to feel appreciation. For what? For anything. For all that life has caused me to become, for the current blessings in my life, for my health, for my relationships…literally for anything. When I appreciate, I feel open and loving, which opens me up to receive good things in life. Art of allowing baby! Another effective method in helping me get to that place of hopeful anticipation is by focusing my thoughts on life as being fun, and not just something I am just supposed to get done. We never get it done. It’s a process. And being able to truly enjoy all these growing experiences is what life is all about.

And can I just say that after writing this I am feeling so much more on center. On my game. Just by writing these couple of paragraphs and refocusing my unfocused thoughts on the things that truly matter, I have created a completely different emotional state within myself. The power of our thoughts. Geeeeeezzzzzz!!!

I am so feeling the song “Oceano” by Josh Groben right now.

Sick and Can’t Sleep

What better to do at 3:30 AM when I’m sick and can’t sleep than update my blog. It has been a little while since I have actually written anything and not just had little blurb updates transferred from my other accounts.

So, I will tell you what I have been working on…both personally and professionally. Let’s start with the professional stuff because maybe some of you will get bored and stop reading before you hit the personal section…which I am a little bit hesitant to share, just because it’s personal. But that’s part of what I am working on so I already committed to share. Damn!

On the professional side of things, I am super excited about everything. There is so much in the works right now…new ideas and opportunities flowing in, literally, on a daily basis. That’s what happens when you put your intent in a direction and don’t resist. My creativity and confidence grow daily as I see things manifest and grow before my very eyes. And I am grateful that I am able to build this business alongside my friend Cesar, who just happens to be my longest-standing friend since I moved to New York – 1 year and 10 months ago. Man oh man, what a crazy ride it has been. He has been with me through so much…hahaha…and has been such a reliable and supportive friend. He wanted to do this dance business from the very beginning, but I was not mentally prepared to do so at the time. I had to go through a string of events first, that gave me some the strength and confidence I needed, as well as helped me eliminate self-imposed, limited thinking. Gosh dang, it was a rough start, but I sure as heck wouldn’t trade it for anything. I am happy with where I am now and look forward to things just getting better and better.

Here is a random clip of Cesar and I social dancing after teaching a class at Hunter College last week. Now you can put some faces to names.

One of the things I am especially excited about is creating online videos to market my business and create relationships (cyber and non-cyber) around the world. In fact, online videos have proven to be so effective that it is going to be one of my main marketing focuses this year…how to be creative and magnetic with the videos. You can build an instantaneous relationship and trust with your customers for FREE, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This year the quality of videos is going to increase drastically, becoming more like movie trailers as opposed to just simply holding a camera up to your face and talking. Anyhow, I am currently working on the homemade, hold-a-camera-up-to-your-face videos, due to a non-existent budget…which is still a step ahead of what I am currently doing. Meanwhile, as I implement all these different marketing strategies for “Step into Salsa”, I am taking note of the most effective methods and also learning how to be more efficient in the implementation process, so that I can eventually market other online products creatively.
In fact, you can see my very first online Salsa dance instructional video. We, of course, only want to provide better and better videos, so any comments or suggestions are greatly appreciated. Please leave them on the YouTube page.

And now, sleep is starting to kick in so I better hurry and finish with my personal confessions…lol. Yeah right, I am not going to go that much into detail. But I will say that I have had a lot of good manifestations in the “guy” or “relationship” department lately, but I am not allowing myself to fully bask in the joy of it because I am afraid. So because I really believe that what we give focus to is what we will get out of life, then instead of focusing on the “fear” of situation, I will focus on the person I want to be more of in those situations. And that is the form my writing shall now take.

I am authentic and loving in my relationships with no fear of being hurt. I am generous and giving because it makes me happy to give, not because I give to get. I open up and share my feelings with another person even if it makes me feel vulnerable. I trust my instinct and am not afraid to question something that seems out of place. I appreciate and enjoy fully what I have before me and do not worry about what I could be missing. I know what I want and trust that through law of attraction and art of allowance, I will get the very thing I desire, and will let go of what doesn’t feel right for me.

I love life! Goodnight.

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When two beings, who are individually in vibrational harmony with their own Source Energy, come together — the physical experience of Co-Creation is at its very best. ~Abe-Hicks

We Never Get It Done!

So today, a friend of mine requested some inspiration from me because he is trying to focus more in the direction of his goals and not allow so many distractions prevent him from doing the things he desires. And based on my own life experience, I have realized that when I allow distractions to actually prevent me from doing the things I want to do, it’s usually because I have some conflict going on in my head surrounding the very thing I desire.

So those of you who don’t know me, don’t know that I have been an avid student of Esther Hicks and her teachings of Abraham for the last 1 1/2 years of my life. I have studied a lot of other self-help gurus since the time I was 19, and while many had an impact on me during a particular point in my life, the teachings of Abraham and the Power of Now have really been the most profound for me. By that I mean, they have been extraordinary valuable tools for helping me transform many of my thinking patterns. I can’t even express in words how grateful I am for my coming to know of these resources. Thank you thank you thank you! Of course, when the student is ready, the resources will ALWAYS be there because the universe is always providing.

Anyway, I just wanted to share with you a few quotes from Abraham-Hicks. These are the same quotes I shared with my friend today. Please read them deliberately, savoring each and every simple word.

“If you believe that you must work hard in order to deserve the money that comes to you, then money cannot come to you unless you do work hard. Financial success, or any other kind of success, does not require hard work. It does require alignment of thought. You simply cannot offer negative thought about things that you desire and then make up for it with action or hard work. When you learn to direct your own thoughts, you will discover the true leverage of Energy alignment.”
~ Abraham-Hicks

“Once you are able to achieve and consistently maintain your personal alignment, a great deal of money will flow into your experience (if that is your desire).

Do not let others set the standards about how much money you should have— or about what you should do with it— for you are the only one who could ever accurately define that. Come into alignment with who-you-really-are, and allow the things that life has helped you to know that you want to flow into your experience.”

~ Abraham-Hicks

“You are so focused upon “what is”
that you’re not letting yourself easily go
in the direction toward what life is calling you toward

That’s why there’s the tension within you
You are so focused upon “what is”

“What is”, is just the bouncing off place – for so much more.

There’s no ending to how much fun you can have.
There’s no ending to how much wonderful financial remuneration will come to you.

Or how many wonderful contacts will come to you.
In other words, YOU’RE JUST BEGINNING YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCE.

All that you’ve lived that has come up to this point
is miniscule in comparison with what you now know & who you NOW ARE.

That’s why we are so exhilarated about what’s before you.
“What is”, is just the bouncing off place for so much more.

You are where you are.
And where you are is really, really, really, really, really, really good.”

~Abraham-Hicks

Randominity, helpful tips, useless info and whatever else!

So, the time has finally arrived for me to expand my ways of connecting to lots of random people, who I will probably never meet in my lifetime, through the tech and social media world. You are now bearing witness to my random blog…created for your viewing pleasure to distract you from the more important things you should be doing.

I tried to come up with a structure for my blog operation…certain things I want to talk about, perhaps a theme of some sort…but due to my resistance to structure (childhood issues), I think it’s safer if I just allow it to be random. So its whole purpose will be to inform you of whatever I feel like.

For instance, I have a personal goal of being more efficient, especially in building my business. Stay tuned, you’ll hear lots more about that later. Even though I consider myself to be up-to-moderate-speed on the whole social media networking and internet marketing stuff, I am completely scattered all over the place with fifty bazillion social networking accounts, each one having their own individual username and password. So, as you can guess, it is a tad bit overwhelming to maintain all my networks, let alone try to be an active member of them. And why is that important for me you may ask???

Well, word on the street is that social media networking and internet marketing are some of the most effective (not to mention cheap) methods of marketing and getting your company seen by the maximum number of people. So, of course, I want to expose my biz to as many eyeballs as possible. And in my search for tools to effectively hone my soon-to-be efficiency capabilities, I discovered……..Ping.fm.

Just this morning, I connected all of my accounts to ONE account that I created for FREE through ping.fm. What does this mean?? It means all I have to do is login to my ping.fm account, type a message, press send and it automatically sends that message to update every single one of my fifty bazillion network sites. This is an appropriate time for a ZEN moment. Very proudly, I told a friend of my discovery and he  said…”Oh yeah, that’s like friendfeeder.” So apparently, this has been around awhile and I am not as up-to-date as I would like to think.:(

Anyway, stay tuned for more random thoughts, discoveries, and whatever else I feel like. And if you want to take Salsa lessons go to http://stepintosalsa.com/.